BELIEVE IN YOURSELF There was a long time when the lack of belief in myself was a major factor in my life. I didn't pursue an ideal career or start my own business, because I didn't think I could. I didn't stick to habits because I didn't really believe I had the discipline. I was shy with girls, I had a hard time to make new friends, I didn't assert myself in the workplace. I didn't push past my comfort zone. All because I didn't really believe I could. While I am not free of self- doubt these days, I can honestly say I believe in myself never before. That's doesn't mean I think I'll never fail or quit. I will. Probably often. And that's ok. The trick is that I learned it's completely fine to try and fail, to put yourself out there and not be perfect, to say hello to someone and have them not instantly love you, to create something and have people judge you. Failure, not being perfect, mistakes, not having
There was a long time when the lack of belief in myself was a major factor in my life.
I didn't pursue an ideal career or start my own business, because I didn't think I could. I didn't stick to habits because I didn't really believe I had the discipline. I was shy with girls, I had a hard time to make new friends, I didn't assert myself in the workplace. I didn't push past my comfort zone.
All because I didn't really believe I could.
While I am not free of self- doubt these days, I can honestly say I believe in myself never before. That's doesn't mean I think I'll never fail or quit. I will. Probably often.
And that's ok.
The trick is that I learned it's completely fine to try and fail, to put yourself out there and not be perfect, to say hello to someone and have them not instantly love you, to create something and have people judge you.
Failure, not being perfect, mistakes, not having people agree with me, not being completely accepted; these are not negative things. They're positive.
How the failure positive? It's the only way we truly learn. For example, we can read a book on math, but until you try it and fail, you will never see where your lack of understanding is. The best way to learn something to study it a bit, then try it, take practice tests, make mistakes, then learn some more.
How are mistakes positive? They are little pieces of feedback necessary to grow and learn.
How it being rejected positive? It means I am growing beyond the absolutely socially acceptable realm. The best people in history were not socially acceptable.
These things we're afraid of- they're actually desirable. We need to learn to see them that way and embrace them, letting go of the fear.
When we can get better at this-which take a lot of practice- we can start to remove the things that hold us back.
So practice:
- Puch past your discomfort, growing your discomfort method.
- Put yourself out there, and be ok with not knowing if people will accept you.
- Stick to it some more, and learn to trust yourself.
- Go into a situation not knowing, and learn to be ok with that.
- Learn through repeated attempted that it's ok to fail, that you can be ok in failure.
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